Whether it's choosing the wrong app, using unflattering photos, having low energy, showing little effort, sounding generic or cliché, or using bad grammar and pickup lines, most people never have a chance to make a good first impression.
dating appsimbue women with a filter mentality. It's hard to filter out men when women are in bars. This is because there are a lot of non-superficial factors that come into play in the real world compared to a dating app.
With an app, a woman can happily swipe left toward men who don't meet her exact criteria. Apps analyze and rank users to the point where their personalities can't shine through. When women don't know someone personally, it's easy for them to create a “must-have list. With a TDL, you're asking it to go to a specific date that has a set time, date, location, and activity.
Even if you have all of this down below, you still need to learn how to flirt, communicate well, engage in conversations and go on dates. Disclosing too little can suggest that you are resilient, closed, and distrustful (of the online process or dating in general). It can be difficult to go on the first date after the first date, but it never seems to establish anything beyond that. You meet online but date offline (flirting, planning dates, dressing, being thoughtful are all traits needed offline and online).
Many people lack the skills to screen people, make the transition from online to offline or simply not willing to do the work to prioritize dating. Joking aside, a lot of women I've spoken to choose not to go on a date with a guy I matched with because it didn't make her feel safe. The only major difference is that online dating sites make it much easier to approach women and start a conversation. Your mental health and well-being come first, always, but online dating isn't something you jump and jump into repeatedly out of failure, disappointment, and frustration either.
Online dating requires effort, knowledge, good judgment, time and good mental health to have a good chance of success. You will be introduced to hookups, pen pals, catfishers, spammers, lonely people, creeps and casual people looking for dates with relationships as a possibility. While the work pays off in the end, it's still more work and it makes online dating a lot harder for guys. As if instant gratification didn't exist when online dating began, IMO, has since proven to dominate the means of human connection.
That mentality can quickly be the death of trust, as you soon realize the fake, pretty picture online dating sites like to paint on the outside.